True love is only proven to be of value by concrete actions. In 1 Corinthians 13:4 Paul starts giving concrete examples.

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude.

We could pick out any one of those examples and do a deep dive into what patience looks like versus impatience or what kindness looks like versus cruelty. But I think we could place them under one major subheading. If love is the main theme of this chapter, the subheading over these 6 things is humility. Humble people will tend to be more patient. Think about it. If I think I’m better or more important than the other person, I’m going to demand that my needs take priority and so I’m going to be impatient with the server in a restaurant, or the cashier at checkout, or the secretary at the doctor’s office. Impatient people tend to think that their time is more valuable than anyone else’s so their needs should be met now. And of course, if they are impatiently placing demands on other people they are not likely to be expressing them with kindness. Patience and kindness are concrete examples of love in the form of humility.

The other four examples Paul gives, envy, boasting, arrogance, and rudeness are all the antithesis of humility. They are all driven by pride. “Why should my coworker get the promotion, she doesn’t deserve it. I’m a far better employee than she is and I have several examples I’d like to give you about why I’m much better than she is.”

I read a story earlier this week about a famous basketball player. The NBA gives out individual accolades to players and they announced the top three finalists for defensive player of the year. The reporter asked this player how he felt about not being one of the finalists for that award. He proceeded to rant about how “The NBA just doesn’t like me. I deserve that award more than any of them, I’m the best defensive player in the league.” When I read his response I felt disgusted about his arrogance put on such vulgar display with his rude and demeaning words about literally everyone in the league. But this is how things are in the world. We’ve come to reward boastful, rude, and arrogant people.

Narcissism is no longer considered a character flaw but makes one a popular candidate seeking high political office. Have you seen how rude certain candidates are as they call others rude names like children on a playground? Humility is seen by many in the world’s eyes as weakness. But not in God’s eyes. James 4:6 says “God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble."

Jesus taught the importance of humility so clearly when he said “Blessed are the meek (humble) for they shall inherit the earth.” Matthew 5:5

He told a very vivid story comparing and contrasting a proud person and a humble person in Luke 18:9-14: He also told this parable to some who trusted in themselves that they were righteous, and treated others with contempt: “Two men went up into the temple to pray, one a Pharisee and the other a tax collector. The Pharisee, standing by himself, prayed thus: ‘God, I thank you that I am not like other men, extortioners, unjust, adulterers, or even like this tax collector. I fast twice a week; I give tithes of all that I get.’ But the tax collector, standing far off, would not even lift up his eyes to heaven, but beat his breast, saying, ‘God, be merciful to me, a sinner!’ I tell you, this man went down to his house justified, rather than the other. For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, but the one who humbles himself will be exalted.”

The world rewards the proud and arrogant boasters who brag about how great they are. True love is evidenced by the humble who don’t think too much of themselves but rather show patience and kindness to others. As the character Forrest Gump said: “I’m not a smart man, but I know what love is.”