A quick review of the story of how David and Abigail meet (if you haven’t already, I highly recommend reading 1 Samuel 25):

David has been running from king Saul for some time
David and his men camped in the wilderness near a rich man’s flock of sheep and their shepherds
When it became time to shear the sheep David sent some men to ask the owner (Nabal) for some sheep & food for his men
They went on a feast day – a day of celebrating the profits the owners of the flocks would make
David’s men tell Nabal how they had protected his shepherds and flocks and then ask for food to be shared with them in thanks for their efforts
Nabal, whose name means “fool”, sent David’s men away empty handed
David’s response was to command, “Every man strap on his sword!”
One of Nabal’s shepherds went to Nabal’s wife, Abigail, and told her what had happened – he understood that Nabal’s response to David would bring harm to the household

Here is where we meet Abigail. Abigail is one of my favorite Bible characters. She is brave, wise and humble. A great example of strength.

The first thing we learn about Abigail is in verse 3 where we are told she is discerning and beautiful. We then see her in action in verse 18, “Then Abigail made haste and took two hundred loaves and two skins of wine and five sheep already prepared and five seahs of parched grain and a hundred clusters of raisins and two hundred cakes of figs, and laid them on donkeys.”

And, it’s not just what she does, but how she does it! First, she reacts quickly. When we know the right thing to do we should “make haste” and get it done.

Reading on we see David ready to kill every male in Nabal’s household. But Abigail intervenes. Verses 23-24 say, “When Abigail saw David, she hurried and got down from the donkey and fell before David on her face and bowed to the ground. She fell at his feet and said, “On me alone, my lord, be the guilt. Please let your servant speak in your ears, and hear the words of your servant.” Again, we see her moving – she hurried and got down. Then, even though she had nothing to do with Nabal’s words and inaction, she offers David great respect by bowing before him. She asks that Nabal’s guilt be on her. Why would she do this? To save her whole household. So, after reacting quickly, Abigail humbles herself to make peace for her household.

Only after humbling herself does she offer the gifts of food she brought for David and his men. The tangible gifts are secondary to her words, posture/body language, and attitude.

Abigail boldly tells David he should accept her gift and not continue with his plan to attack. She reminds him that he doesn’t want to have that blood on his hands/conscience when he becomes ruler over Israel. David accepts her gift and blesses her for her cautionary words of advice.

Abigail’s strength does not stop with this one encounter with David. She continues to exhibit strength when she goes home and courageously faces her husband, telling him she went against his directives. She even bravely waits until he has sobered up from celebrating before approaching him. This news kills Nabal.

In verse 31 Abigail asks David to remember her. In verses 39-42 we see David hearing about Nabal’s death and sending for Abigail to be his wife. The strength of character she demonstrated to David wound up providing for her at a time when she would have likely had nothing left and no one to take care of her.